My proactive procrastination (in the deadly month of April) has led me to playing around with OkCupid, an online dating site that is dubbed “the Google of online dating,” and to be honest, this site amazes me as to how LGBTQ+-friendly it is. Here are 7 reasons why OkCupid rocks!
1. For my gender, I have 22 options (man, woman, agender, androgynous, etc.) that I can choose up to 5, meaning that there are a total of 26334 possible combinations with regard to my gender. Isn’t it cool? Especially when you consider the fact that most legal documents only have 2 (some have an option called Other, but from my own experience, there are not many out there).
2. The same goes for my orientation! I have 12 options (ranging from straight, heterosexual to queer, questioning) that I can choose up to 5, making it 792 possible combinations. OkCupid, is this love at first sight or what? Because I am really falling for you.
3. I can choose whether or not I’d like to see or be seen by straight people. While this doesn’t concern me, I really appreciate that the site makes an effort to accommodate for others’ needs to find their dates only within queer community.
4. I found a lot of people I know at RC who don’t identify as gay in real life but are more open about their gender and orientation on OkCupid.
5. Men seem to be more expressive on OkCupid. For all the guys I have stalked so far, they share their thoughts and emotions more freely than I assume they would in real life, especially in Lynchburg, where there are certain expectations as to how men should act.
6. Women talk more about their sexual desire and preferences/fantasies. Again, this is only limited to the women I have seen so far, but my impression is that they are not afraid of discussing these topics openly. Now, imagine a woman talking about how much she likes bondage sex or orgy in the D-Hall, people may judge her and spread rumors about how slutty she is.
7. OkCupid can be used both for hook-ups and long-term relationships. This gives people of all gender more freedom and does not bind sex and relationship together.
Much as I appreciate OkCupid’s pro-feminism environment, there is one thing that really bugs me — racial preferences. From my observation and from this statistics, most people prefer to date someone of their own race (which is understandable and I have no problem with it). But:
- More white men want to date Asian/Latina women than white women want to date Asian/Latina men
- Asian men and women are not very excited about black men and women
- Matches between white men/women and black men/women are minimal
What do these facts mean to you? What do you think of this trend in relationship preference? Does it mean that Asian and Latina women are being in high demand as something exotic? And does it mean that black people are so oppressed that all other races don’t want to date them? Please comment and let me know what you think!